Sitting here at my desk, I thought about this question, what does love have to do with it? Hmmm… I thought to myself: Nothing and everything. What does love have to do with it when it pertains to your health in your relationship?
As I sat in my quietness, it was revealed to me that an unhealthy relationship can cause physical, mental and emotional distress on the couple. It can also cause stress on the people around them. This stress can cause you to dislike yourself and your partner. The people around you may even avoid you because your energy is toxic.
This toxic energy and load on one’s body, mind, and soul can cause have High Blood Pressure and Emotional Stress. This is something that can be solved, especially if you are typically a healthy person with a healthy diet, clean eating lifestyle, you exercise and you drink moderately. Ask yourself “Is my relationship causing me to be unhealthy?”
If so take a break from your relationship and exam your state of mind, stress level, and toxic load. You will be surprised after limiting communication with your spouse, you may realize that your stress level is going down and your anxiety diminishing. Actually one of the number one stress killers of a relationship is not the kids, its a toxic spouse.
Ask yourself again:
Am I in an unhealthy situation?
Why do I feel this way?
How can I release this feeling?
If you are unsure then do a 7-day detox with observing your mind and body.
When do you get stressed?
- Communication is lacking or not clarified.
- Talking about the same thing over and over again with no resolution.
- Boundaries are crossed or not established.
- Text are frequent and unnecessary (no downtime).
- I am criticized.
- I feel unheard.
- I’m not exercising or have no physical activity.
- Feeling chased or watched.
- When there is a lack of trust/jealousy.
- I’m in an unspoken competition.
- Feeling trapped or overwhelmed with the meaningless task.
- Not given a schedule or the schedule is loose.
Looked back in time/history at your body language when any of these above buttons were pushed and noticed your bodies reactions to the above events or situations.
Hmm… So how you release these toxins from your system and your environment. COMMUNICATE!
By reading your body language you could control or communicate these feeling out loud.
I don’t feel comfortable when ….this happens.
If your partner sees that you’re communicating your feelings and he/she still continues to challenge you then understand that you have a clear choice to stay or leave because your health is more important.
What is does love have to do with it when someone doesn’t acknowledge that they are pushing your buttons? EVERYTHING… Love is forgiving, trusting, non jealous, thoughtful, kind, giving and respectful.
I believe that sometimes we don’t consider our health and stress when it pertains to our relationship. We live a lie and cover up our true emotions to protect another. Many people stay in relationships and are getting sick day by day because their buttons are constantly being pushed.
Why stay? Isn’t your health more important? Would you rather be sick in a relationship than healthy by yourself? What are the sacrifices you are making in staying or leaving?
What does love have to do with it? – Everything when it pertains to your health.
P.S. If you love me you would protect me and keep me safe.
If you have communicated your feelings with your partner, it’s important to allow your partner to change and gain consistency. Counseling helps as well.
Thank you for reading. My blogs are written creatively so that you can see yourself in my message. It may or may not be about me. Again… it’s a thought or conversation that I have with everyday people.
Stay Bold, Be Blessed, Stay in your Truth!