The Husband, The Lover, The Wife

The husband, the lover and the wife can they experience love equally?

Are you in love with a married person or are you in a committed relationship and in love with your partner and someone else? Are you in a committed relationship and your partner told you that they’re in love with someone else in addition to you? Are still realizing how could this happen?

In the last few weeks, I’ve been in several conversations about the topic of  love and infidelity. This topic has been discussed several times on my show Timna LIVE.  Infidelity and the thought of two people being in love despite the commitment to another.

Through these conversations,  I noticed that infidelity is something that affects every household in some shape or form whether currently or in the past. My colleague shared a vulnerable video on her website regarding her innermost feeling about an affair she had. This video made me think and wonder about the love that two people can share outside of a committed relationship.

Is it wrong to be in love with someone outside of your committed relationship? Is it wrong for the spouse to still be in love with the partner that strayed away? Is it wrong for the lover to fall deeply in love with the person that is committed to another? 

What do you think?

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The Person

I loved and I cared.

 I fell in love again but, this time with someone else. Someone that I didn’t commit my life to. Someone that I met. Someone who made me feel amazing. Someone who knew that I had an unfilled passion. Someone who energized me. Someone who took me out of my misery. Someone who challenged me. Someone who made me feel special. Someone who wanted me and desire me. Someone who didn’t nag me but, made me feel whole again. Someone who didn’t deny me but, fulfilled me. Someone who loved me just as much as I loved them. 

I loved and I cared. 

People told me that I was wrong but, it felt right. It was a spark that was ignited, my flame was out and now it was lite again. My flame was burning bright. This person was in love with me and I was in love again. Sometimes I think why did I fall in love but, I did. Was this wrong or was it right?

I loved and  I cared.

Did I make a mistake? Who will forgive me? Should I even care? Should I be at fault? I’m in love again! Why me? Why not me? I needed to feel whole again, was that selfish of me or was this what saved my life? I still my spouse but, in another way, a love that is deeply rooted and deeply invested. I love my spouse but, now I love another.

I loved and I cared

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The Lover

I loved and I cared.

I fell in love with someone who was already taken. Someone that was not committed to me but to another. Someone who made me feel special. Someone that I committed my life to not on paper but in my heart.  Someone that I met.  Someone who made me feel amazing.  Someone who knew I had an unfilled passion.  Someone who energized me.  Someone who took me out of my misery.  Someone who challenged me.  Someone who made me feel special.  Someone who wanted me and desire me.  Someone who made me feel whole.  Someone who didn’t deny me but fulfilled me.  Someone who loved me just as much as I loved them.

I loved and I cared.

People told me that I was wrong but it felt right. It was a spark that was ignited.  My flame was out and now it was lite again.  My flame was burning bright. This person was in love with me and I was in love. Sometimes I think why did I fall in love but I did.  Was this wrong or was it right?

I loved and I cared.

Did I make a mistake? Who will forgive me? Should I even care?  Should I be at fault? I’m in love. Why me? Why not me? I wanted and needed to feel love. Am I selfish? This love save my life?

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I loved and I cared.

I fell in love. Someone who was young. Someone that made me happy. Someone that gave me all.  Someone that allowed me to be free. Someone that knew me. Someone that knew my routine. Someone that I communicated. Someone that shared my bed. Someone that was a part of me. Someone that made me feel whole. Someone I built a life with. Someone that I trusted. Someone that loved and felt love. Someone that I shared a special moment with. Someone that I would grow old with. Someone who made me feel special at times when I was at my worst. Someone who I considered a friend. Someone that a part of my team.

I loved and I cared.

People told me that I was wrong to stay. My flame was burning bright at one time but it got weaken then died. Now it is time to reignite it. This person was in love with me and I was in love. Sometimes I think are we still in love but I say yes.  I’m in love. Is my feeling wrong or was it right? Should I stay or should leave?

I loved and I cared.

Did I make a mistake? Who will forgive me? Should I even care?  Should I be at fault? I’m in love. Why me? Why not me?  I want to feel love. Am I selfish? This love is my life? 

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These are 3 points of view of forbidden love.

I wanted to shed some light on several perspectives of the affair. Each perspective will make you think. There is no right or wrong, no good or bad, no one loving less or loving more. There is just different sides of the story. The intermingle of betrayal, forgiveness and lost is somehow wrapped in love. What do you think?

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Listen to past episodes of Timna LIVE and don’t forget to tune in this Sunday at 9pm EST on http://www.blogtalkradio.com/TimnaLIVE or dial 347-989-0794 to be LIVE on air Sunday at 9pm EST

Click the link below to hear this past show regarding infidelity:

http://tobtr.com/8530737

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