Many of us become depressed or look for away out! “How did Stella get her groove back?” is a legitimate question for many women (married, single or divorced)…
Married w/ Kids
After having kids, you experience weight gain, tiredness plus aging. You say to yourself, “How did I get to this point?” No make-up, sweats/ lounge wear, work clothes that is not flattering to my new body shape, frumpy, a lack of sex appeal and so on… Who am I? Why don’t I feel sexy and why do I need to service my mate when I am tired, frustrated, overworked and feeling underpaid?
Timna’s 10 Steps to Getting your Groove Back:
If you asked yourself these questions, then you are half way there! You noticed that something is wrong, but now you want to change…
Step 1 – Take a day for yourself (meaning no kids, no spouse, no work) Stay in a hotel for a night or the weekend depending on your budget… Regroup!!!!
Step 2- Write down the things you most desire to do in your life outside of the kids and family (Be a bit selfish… don’t deny your desires)
Step 3 – Look in the mirror and enjoy what you see! (Do this on a regular bases; practice, practice, practice…)
Step 4- Throw all your frumpy clothes OUT! (If there are stains and the outfit does not compliment your body, Bye, Bye)
Step 5- Think Like a Queen! (Powerful, leader, accomplished and so on…)
Step 6- Go to a make-up counter and treat your face for free!!!! If you like the products, then buy the cheaper version (laughing) until you can afford the more expensive brand. Plus try a lipstick color that gives your face a pop!
Step 7- Forget about what the kids need!!!Buy 5 New Outfits FOR YOURSELF (one nice sexy jean, a dress that fits you like a glove, a skirt and several shirts). Buy a pair of shoes that makes your legs look HOT! You are putting yourself first for 1 day!
Step 8 – Walk with confidence! (I look good and I feel good)!!!! Like a Drag Queen!!! (laughing) Practice your walk and then laugh at yourself… Now you can move forward!! As my mom would say: Put a book on your head and walk tall with out dropping it! Back straight, long strides that says… “I am a Woman, Hear me ROAR!”
Step 9- Get a Babysitter! Surprise your spouse with a Date Night! Take charge of what you want in your relationship!!
Step 10- The more Confident you feel, the more sexier you become! “Practice Loving Yourself” and things will change…
If this does not work, try steps 1 to 10 again… STAY POSITIVE